Is my husband an alcoholic? What are the signs that suggest his dependence is more on a bottle of alcohol, than on your marriage? Read on to find out the signs and symptoms of an alcoholic.
Wine hath drowned more men than the sea. ~ Thomas Fuller
True! Alcoholism does disguise itself with every sip of drink you take. This clever devil, strikes you when you are least prepared for it. Alcoholism consumes many, who fail to recognize its early grip. The intoxicating taste bewitches the mind to lose its inhibitions, when being carefree isn’t your topmost priority. Such is the power of alcohol, which casts its spell on gullible minds. Living with a partner whose marriage to a bottle of booze is deeper, than the marriage he shares with you, can be tough in both, emotional and physical ways. If you find yourself wondering too often whether your husband is an alcoholic, it is time to dig a little deeper into that intuitive apprehension.
Signs of an Alcoholic Husband
✓ Frequency
It is true, that alcohol has become a popular way of celebration. However, when sharing a bottle of wine once a week becomes having a drink every night, the transition is questionable. The frequency at which your husband is consuming alcohol will be the crucial factor while answering your querry. All alcoholics have at least one drink every single day. An alcoholic may have a drink at the break of dawn or with his dinner. When the frequency of having drinks increases to everyday, the behavior is surely the one that’s tilting towards alcoholism.
✓ Reasons
None of us like to be questioned, but most of us do read the intention behind those questions. However, when you inquire whereabouts of an alcoholic, he will give you reasons such as ‘no, I am still at office’, ‘an urgent meeting came up’, ‘it was a boys night out’, ‘it was just a couple of drinks’ and so forth. Initially, an alcoholic will give you a score of reasons for why he has been drinking. However, you need to remember that excuse for drinking cannot be justified. Hence it needs to be questioned there and then, without any hesitation.
✓ Lies
When your husband realizes that you are no longer buying his reasons for drinking, he will begin lying. Drinking under the pretext of working late at office or working in night shifts, is the most commonly used and abused lie for staying out of house and drinking. Telling a lie for drinking, is a sure sign of alcoholism. After all, what is the need to lie to do something? It is only when a person realizes that he is wrong, he lies to repeat the action over and over again. An alcoholic feels guilty and ashamed of his excessive drinking, which is the source of all the lies.
✓ Withdrawal Symptoms
If your husband happens to be in a situation wherein he cannot have his daily dose of alcohol, he will show withdrawal symptoms such as anxiety, shakiness, insomnia, depression, fatigue, irritability, loss of appetite and headache. These withdrawal symptoms show that he’s lost control over his drinking habits and that alcohol takes up most of his energy and mind power. If the problem is of a severe nature withdrawal symptoms will extend to hallucinations, confusion, seizures, fever and agitation.
Denial is the biggest problem most alcoholics face. Alcoholic’s cannot deny the strong desire to have a drink, which is what makes them drink irrationally. As the sense of consequences drowns further in denial, the problem only aggravates with time. While answering the questioning, try looking for answers in the relationship that you share. Drinking problem is often associated with a person’s mental health. It is only a weak mind which can be manipulated by alcohol to be in high spirits. A healthy mind knows problem solving and rationalizing with innate desires to be happy.
